Wednesday, September 21, 2011

The Affirmative Action President?

Recently I had the pleasure of engaging a dear friend of mine on Facebook regarding an article she read. She wanted my opinion, the opinion of an African-American who has a opposition to our current commander in chief, which some consider rare since the going consensus is that "we" all support him because of his race.

This article suggested that Obama was voted in because it was about time to allow a leader of color to show us what they've got. The "change" Americans needed was to bring hope into the eyes of many after the tyranny of our preceding leader. Without putting further words in the mouth of my fellow journalist, you can read Matt Patterson's article here. Without infringing on my fellow commentators right to privacy, here's what I had to add to this controversial opinion.

  • "I have to agree with this article and remained steadfast that he is not what people claim him to be and because of my current circle of associates, all but one see why I choose not to engage others on my moot point.

    Yes he speaks eloquently, my first “ho-hum”; so can I when I choose to. I wonder what would happen if Obama had a fly zoom into his mouth during one of his speeches. He’s slipped up before and eloquently explained it away.

    Sadly, I can affirm that every tactic he used to win his presidency I’ve used to usher myself into employment. The difference between he and I, I used it to acquire a position that I could meet and often exceed in my objectives.

    Funny thing is, I used to be openly Republican in thought and could justify my positon until one of my closest friends ripped me a new one for admitting this. I’m not an “Uncle Tom” but I know that the current state of African Americans will not and cannot be fixed by offering a hand out, well at least to those who don’t stand a chance. I know we can do better as a race.

    I will also admit that I’m “pro” affirmative action only because of the existence of opportunity barriers in some environments where qualified minorities are overlooked because of social stereotypes. I walked in these shoes and witnessed the lesser qualified chosen because of the “old boys club”. Of course I shrug and move on because I wouldn’t want to work somewhere I’m not wanted; my zero tolerance for ignorance would have me fired on the first day.

    I actually put it out there that I wanted Donald Trump to run and lost a few FB friends over it. I doubt he would last because the bullshit of government would repel him super fast.

    A woman needs to win, a great one; why? Because of our natural ability to run and control everything."

    What do you think?


Sunday, December 26, 2010

See It Because I Said So


Dorian Gray

2009, R Rating 112 minutes


Cast: Ben Barnes, Colin Firth, Ben Chaplin, Rebecca Hall, Rachel Hurd-Wood, Caroline Goodall, Emilia Fox, Douglas Henshall,Fiona Shaw, Maryam d'Abo

Director: Oliver Parker

Geres: Drama, Supernatural Thrillers, Dramas Based on Classic Literature, Period Pieces


This movie is based on the book “The Picture of Dorian Gray” written by Oscar Wilde. Dorian Gray (Ben Barnes), heir to a family fortune, is introduced to a life of hedonist debauchery by envious frenemy Lord Wotten (Colin Firth) who succeeds in corrupting and freeing this philosophical protegee from his perceived existence of mundane conforming. Wotten gave so much more meaning to the verse “Do it till your satisfied” than B.T Express aimed to emphasize.

Wotten’s manipulation began by captivating Dorian with his own image in a self portrait created by commissioned painter, Basil Hallward (Ben Chaplin), who is Wotten’s acquaintance and later becomes Dorian’s close friend. Although Basil cares deeply for Dorain and has heavy reservations regarding Wotten’s influence, he indulges limited amounts of pleasure being a devotee to such a rich, becoming young man and fails to redirect his fate.

The music and costumes in this movie is consistent with the Victorian era and allows you to enjoy a visual trip to a time when the extremely wealthy struggled to maintain a facade of chasteness and civility in every public arena. The acting was a bit blase which made it difficult for me to connect with any of the characters. What kept me interested? I was drawn to learn more about the immortal Dorain Gray character portrayed in Stephen Norrington’s film adaptation of the cult comic series, “The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen”. Mysterious, alluring, discerning men with a secret always draw me in. I guess it’s because I watched too many 007 and Dracula movies in my early childhood.

If you are a fan of supernatural fiction, I would recommend checking this one out if you have some sleepless nights to occupy. If you are not, this film is a sufficient anecdote besides counting sheep.

Saturday, December 25, 2010

See It Because I Said So


JUST B-CAUSE YOU HAVE FREE TIME ON YOUR HANDS

The pleasure of taking in a B-film in this day in age, leaves the B-film aficionado that has 90 minutes in their lives never expecting to get the most out of the movie or to get those minutes back, feeling less guilty. Today, B movies have grown past their double feature intention of the pre-1950's to the self sustaining main feature that is guaranteed to entertain the young, curious, old, and the bored.

These films serve the same purpose for it's audience as it did the production companies; to fill the time between the availability of major films. They are always available and worth the time and money put into them because they give you an opportunity to explore the depths of hell or the vastness of space without making you bend your thoughts around the profoundness of the plot or the skill level of the actors.

Over time, the line between determining what films would fit the B genre has been considerably clouded by the increasing fiscal demand of the film making market, increasing and eliminating the authentic low budget nature of B films. Producing a film with a higher budget allowed B-film makers to create a higher quality film which in turn eliminated the most significant criteria of a B film. Today, films like "Scream", created with a multi-million dollar budget and grossing millions in revenues, has further ushered this genre of film into A list territory. The campiness of this films antagonist and long list of lesser known actors met and sustained the criteria of a B film although it impacted a greater audience bringing in A-list millions.

This change in standards has created a more enjoyable waste of time leaving the viewer satisfied with their money spent.

See It Because I Said So


GOSSIP

2000, R Rating, 90 minutes


Cast:James Marsden, Kate Hudson, Lena Headey, Joshua Jackson, Sharon Lawrence, Marisa Coughlan

Director: Davis Guggenheim
Genres: Thrillers,
Psychological Thrillers, Mystery, Suspense,



At first, allow me digress. Now of course for this movie I may be a bit late but for these blog posts, I will review old and new movies and sometimes episodes or series that are on television or the internet. My critiques/reviews will seldom include plot spoilers of any kind and if I choose to divulge crucial plot information, it will most likely be in the comment threads. If I divulge in the blog entry, it will be because I want to identify a specific subject that I just cannot hold back on.

Well although there are many that frown on the concept of gossiping especially in personal circles, places of business and social cliques, this film gives a perspective of how gossip dictates a large percentage of our society and displays a convoluted scenario that I am crazy enough to assume someone may have actually experienced. Come to think of if, now that I have seen this movie, I wonder if there is a percentage of "I didn't do it" inmates that are gossip victims.

The films primary setting is a loft that deserves the envy of those who wish they lived in it, houses three college roommates, Derrick Webb (James Marsden), Cathy Jones (Lena Headey), and Travis (Norman Reedus). Derrick, the lead male, leads a lifestyle that I could only revel in a hacked version of my "The Sims" game. The opulence of his life leaves him a young, rich, generous, intelligent, jaded cynic who keeps his two selected roommates indulging in his carefree, careless lifestyle.

These roommates also share a common Communications class which after a lecture on gossip, they chose to combine efforts to deliver a final project on the topic of gossip and the effect it has on it’s subjects by starting a rumor and tracking the results.

The delivery of the subject of gossip has me thinking twice about sharing anything with anyone without expecting it to stay just between us. The very nature of gossip beginning with the initial recipient of confidence, makes me recognize that nothing should be repeated if you do not expect it to be shared. It’s like now I have to just take it in the chin and know that whoever I share something with, that information is not immune from the “Six Degrees” theory. If I share information, my intention is only to get the perspective of someone I trust with information that was given to me from someone who trusted me. So it really boils down to identifying those you trust and who they trust and if you can trust them. Forgive me for this one, remember I did say that the scenario is convoluted.

The actors did an awesome job and the writers get my bravo on putting together a script that will capture its target audiences interest. It’s decadent and intese delivery can be appreciated by the Shaynenay’s & Treyshawns to the Constnace’s & Trevor’s. “Gossip” shows that those who choose to engage in it should perhaps give the six degrees web an acute analysis before deciding to get tangled in it. It also draws attention to the premise that rumors have an intention and if a disastrous reaction occurs, it's likely giving great pleasure to at least one person included in it. So if that floats your boat, this movie is a great tool to apease your guilty pleasure. If it doesn't, stick around, there's something in this movie for you too.

See It Because I Said So - Film Critiques & Reviews





After waking up from the sound of someone rifiling through my closet, I figured that I would take this time policing my room by adding a new film critique and review segment to my blog tagged and titled "See It, Because I Said So".



This addition comes from the many nights I spend dousing my insomnia with movies on Netflix's, Amazon On Demand, Apple TV, or the many many streams of visual companionship I can find on my Roku box. When searching for movies, I often rely on the comments and critiques of other users to determine if I would enjoy my wasted sleeping hours. Most times I would agree with the top comment poster and sometimes share my opinion because I just need to share my thoughts with someone at 4am and waking my hunny is not an option.



For those who know me personally, they know that I LOVE MOVIES, especially ones that leave me delightfully paranoid and ready to take down zombies in a crisis situation. I do not discriminate when it comes to critiquing movies, many times I have blown the mood for my husbands choice of adult films with scathing in-depth reviews that render the very nature of some of those films pointless.



Now of course I don't expect everyone to appreciate my take on a movie, so every comment will be appreciated and if you want my opinion on a movie you've seen, send your recommendation to SEE.IT.BECAUSE.I.SAID.SO@GMAIL.COM.







Sunday, May 2, 2010

Facebook Bible Brow Beating

Facebook status's are great, especially when you get tangled up in one that goes on and on and on and on....

Why do some Christians wear a shroud of understanding when their hearts are filled with biased rage? Follow this thread and see what I mean. Oh yeah, the red has no relation to the red in bibles, js.

Ed Rhino

[[ QUESTION 369 ]] A man impregnates his girlfriend. She gives him a marriage ultimatum. He fears not seeing his child and proposes. HE has no peace about the marriage, even through the wedding day. Fear of disappointing the families and wedding party, he relunctantly recites his vows without his heart believing in...
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Jessica Boyer

Yes!
5 hours ago

LiaLia Author Alia Billings

Doesn't sound like a marriage put together by God...
5 hours ago

April Non-traditional Strozier

wow 9 years it took him alone time im proud of him
5 hours ago

Sophia Johnson

Moses gave us divorce to make life easier, divorce is not god's will. The mistake started when he decided to have sex without protection. Nine years ago, he should have exercised chaste and waited for the right one to have children with. His foolish choices does not earn him a free pass unless he observes Yom Kippur.
5 hours ago ·


Lisa Weatherspoon

YES , GOD FORGIVES ALL . THOSE WHO HAVE NOT SIN LET HIM CAST THE FIRST STONE .
5 hours ago

Ed Rhino

Sophia, is every marriage God's will?
5 hours ago

Karen Williams

as long as he sincerely repents . . God is merciful and true to His Word . . 1 JN 1:9 . . if we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness..
5 hours ago

Miles T. Fitzpatrick

It was a "shotgun wedding" and his vows were said under duress. (Under threat of withholding his child) Of course God forgives him under these extreme circumstances. I'm surprised that he could hang in there nine years!!! SMH
5 hours ago

Angela Marie Hinton

First, he should not have let himself be manipulated into marriage if he didn't want to be. Since he went for it, he has to lie in that hard bed he made, I will assume there was no gun to his head at the ceremony. Why jump into something and then want out and hope God forgives. Work all that out beforehand.
5 hours ago

Terry Potillo

Not every marriage is God's will because of the "Free Will" He gives us. I had "Free Will" both marriages and both ended with their infidelity and me filing for divorce. I am definately waiting on Him the next time, His Will only no matter what. I believe in Love after Love ♥
5 hours ago

Sophia Johnson

Once married in the eyes of god, any relationship that goes on after divorce is adulterous, the only way to get around it would be through Jesus or Yom Kippur. He may get forgiven for the divorce but he will never be able to engage in a relationship without it being adulterous. He might as well suck it up and remain married. For better or for worse. If he had sex with her, he should have loved her. That is why promiscuity leads nowhere. He should not have married her, he needs to see this mistake through till death do they part.
5 hours ago ·

Sophia Johnson


"The Pharisees also came to Him, testing Him, and saying to Him, 'Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for just any reason?' And He answered and said to them, 'Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning "made them male and female," and said, "For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh"? So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.' They said to Him, 'Why then did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to put her away?' He said to them, 'Moses, because of the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery; and whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery'" (Mat. 19:3-9).
5 hours ago ·

Sophia Johnson

Sorry for the brother, but whats done is done.
5 hours ago ·

Benjamin Whitley

Yes
4 hours ago

Ed Rhino

Sophia, God is not the God of punishment as you've described. Not every marriage is God's will. Anything not done by faith is sin. This marriage was definitely not an act of faith, but fear by which God has no part of. Just as sure as everybody praying in the name of Jesus knows Jesus, everybody marrying is not marrying with God's blessing .
4 hours ago

Doretta L Lee

Grace and Mercy...stands tall in these situations. I was pushed/manipulated into a marriage after I got saved. no counseling, no consideration for whether we were compatible for the long haul. The church just wanted us to LOOK the part. After 17 years of marriage I left..things never got better only progressively worse. There's nothing worse than being in a one sided or loveless marriage..it's literally Hell On Earth.
4 hours ago

Sophia Johnson

God and his son says One Flesh. It is what it is to question this is questioning THEIR word, not mine.
4 hours ago ·

Sophia Johnson

Making up rules as you go is not the will of God, that is the will of man.
4 hours ago ·


Doretta L Lee

Sophia God allowed Moses to allow divorce (a man to put away his wife) because of the hardness of their hearts. When youre in a loveless relationship, your heart tends to harden. Hardeness affects every area of our lives. Is it better to become hard and bitter or to get out of a situation so you can become the loving person you were designed to be? In this forum we have an opportunity to educate someone so they wont make this mistake.
4 hours ago

Pastor LeRon Atkinson

Personally, I don't believe in being unhappy. Life is too short to stay in a marriage that is not working. Exhaust all possible options to salvage the marriage, if it is salvagable. As far as "Til Death Do You Part", the brother was comatose going in the marriage and died a slow death by staying with this BEASTY BOSSY BRIDE. Yes, he had a choice - no qualms about it - but,there comes a time when one has to ADMIT IT & QUIT IT once you've come to terms with your mistake!
4 hours ago

Doretta L Lee


AMEN Pastor Atkinson
4 hours ago

Sophia Johnson

He can divorce his wife and be happy, but will God forgive him for divorcing his wife whom has been faithful, nope. He is a man of free will, his divorce is of his free will, not god's will, plain and simple. The hardness of which Jesus speaks is the stubbornness of man to exercise his own free will and not give unto the will of God.

Divorce was not Gods creation. The brother should have just went to court and got visitation or partial custody. He can be happy but if he is a man that wants to serve God, then he needs to stay put. To flex god's will in one regard would suggest that you can flex his will in all, so maybe it would be better for him to kill his wife and move on. Till death do us part but oh yeah, Gods says you should not kill also. Maybe he will forgive him in this case also.

As I stated, the mistake was not the marriage, it was the carnal life he was leading having sex with a woman he did not intend to spend the rest of his life with. This type of 'free will" is why we are plagued with divorce and there is no value in marriage in christian households. This revolving door on marriage is wrong, simply put. In the next life, the perfect existence that will be built for gods children to reign in the future will not include this selfish man. Willing to marry to please man, unwilling to stay married to please God. Smh.
4 hours ago ·


-Heriberto Alonso

Duh...of course! Been there...
3 hours ago

Doretta L Lee

Peter made a commitment (which is what marriage is) to never deny Jesus...Jesus knew the circumstances Peter would face would naturally (humanly) create a response to SURVIVE! I'm speaking on a personal level...I was suicidal, depressed, oppressed, mentally tortured in my marriage...the last of my natural will to SURVIVE kicked in. I do not condone...
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-Heriberto Alonso

@Sophia - divorce sometimes is inevitable. Back in the Moses day...husbands would divorce their wives for stupid reasons. Most 20yr old that get married have no clue what LOVE & COMMITTMENT really is. Jesus simplified the law so that husbands would not leave the wife just because she gained some weight, burned some food or is not as attractive. In ...
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3 hours ago

Doretta L Lee

very well said Heriberto Alonso.
3 hours ago

Pastor LeRon Atkinson


Sophia...Sophia...Sophia , I hear your points and admire your convictions on the matter. I'm trying to flip a coin and decide which hat to wear in addressing your latest comment. First & foremost- the only unpardonable sin is blashphemy against the Holy Spirit, according to Holy Writ. Therefore, YES, God will forgive him for divorcing his wife "whom has been faithful". Additionally, to your statement that, "if he wants to serve God he needs to stay put" - that's a coin - FLIP IT! If a man and his wife are at odds, his prayers are hindered before God, according to the Word. If he's in an unhealthy marital relationship his service is already being prohibited b/c God's ears are numb to his petition until it is fixed.

Yes, he was in error with the fornication piece....let's go deeper. He complicated matters by not using protection; clearly the Bride wasn't pressing the contraception issue either. One could gather that this kat has a lust issue. I would rather him leave the situation instead of staying in it unhappily to satisfy religious riggamahrole; it only open doors to adultery, etc. That's what happens when a person's essential needs arent being met; substitute(s) are interviewed! The mistake was the fornication and the carnal life he was living. Staying married does not please God...faith pleases God.
3 hours ago

Sophia Johnson

If we adhered to the consequences of Gods law, humanities current state would be quite different. Gods will is not grey, it's always been black and white. My way or your way, your choice. Everyone has free will, Gods will is more demanding, who said to abide by Gods will was easy? The original question was, would God forgive a man for divorcing his wife because he was unhappy, not whether he should stay married.

If he truly wants to please God or is worried if his actions were to fit Gods favor, he would stay married. Perhaps folks should do the right thing initially and give life before marriage some time.

Having a child out of wedlock is not against Gods favor. If he was worried about pleasing God, then he should have not married homegirl. Jesus does not condone divorce, God does not condone it either. So tough tomatoes for anyone who would think that they would be ushered into God's grace because they exercised their will over his. So you married the wrong chap, terrible thing, know your mate before you choose them. A lot of unfortunate things take place because of people exercising their free will as do a lot of good things. Whether those acts are right with God can be found in his word, period.

God is very unforgiving, Jesus it your ticket to forgiveness. Plucking eyes out if that is what Jesus demands and you follow him, pluck it out. So what if you are a cyclops, you would have been a sincere christian. The unwillingness to yield to Gods will is why we are stuck in this mess of and existence in the first place, the weakness of those who exercise their free will absent of what Gods will demands because it makes life easier for them. If God were to wear a tee shirt it should say "Do you" and I'mma continue to do right by the seed of those that chose my will over theirs". He did not make it easy, I embrace that. I am very careful about the things I choose in life, considering that most of my existence evolves around a society that makes some choices for you or you suffer the consequences of unemployment, jail and so on.

BTW, the difference between the time of Moses and now is a date, technological advances and overpopulation. Gods will is the same then as it is today.
3 hours ago ·


-Heriberto Alonso

@Sophia - I'm glad you ain't God nor Jesus. We would have a bunch of Pirates of the Carribean with a patch over our plucked eye & Captain Hooks with those who cut their arm cause they stole. Last I checked the Word it said "His grace is sufficient for me for I boast in my WEAKNESS that when I'm weak thru Him I'm strong." {written by a man who frustrated the heck out of himself in trying to live a PERFECT life & wrote 2/3 of the New Testament...Apostle Paul}. Nuff said.
2 hours ago

Michael Houston

of course go forgives all who ask
2 hours ago

Michael Houston

god sorry
2 hours ago

Doretta L Lee

It appears that some answers are out of a defensive place of pain and I respect that pain but it doesnt change the fact that we are not expected to go through voluntary humiliation or play the martyr to satisfy a law for the lawless. It appears to me there is a pain of rejection that has not been healed. When we are in pain, it's hard to see objectively. Forgive the person that has wronged you and then you'll have the ability to have compassion on those who have chosen to be freed from a tumultuos relationship.
2 hours ago

Sophia Johnson

I have very little adoration for Paul and his 2 thirds of the New Testament, he is just another man, his philosophy is not that path that I choose to follow. The gospel according to, smh. Wish I knew what his weaknesses were. Actually come to think of it, I am terrified to find out what weakness for which he is boastful, and gives Jesus the burden of representing his strength. Nice excuse. My kids will not be taught to give into what makes them weak, ever.

It still is what it is, you do you, doesn't mean that God will embrace your actions. He gave you free will for a reason, but if you want to live within his grace, it's his way, un-compromised, period.
2 hours ago ·


Michael Houston

@ sophia so yu know bout that new testament too.. you are soo right
2 hours ago

Michael Houston

you know the funny thing is christians believe they are following Jesus.. christanity is Pauls religion... Jesus was a Rabbi Jewish
2 hours ago

Sophia Johnson

@ Doretta; I am 12 years married, 5+1 children and wealthy. I have been wronged by many and forgiven many. God has shielded me from actions that would leave me in a place to not be forgiving. I also do not judge, hence my saying that you are free to live your life as you choose, but to fit in the shoes that God gives out for you to walk in, they may not be comfortable for unyielding people.

Rejection is a common thread in life, I am unbothered by it. Only Gods rejection is what I fear.

Having compassion for the abused partner, and the abuser, been there done that. Marriage is a lifelong commitment that if folks would give the relationships time, then maybe they would not get married to an abuser. EVERYONE knows the bed that they choose to lie in after time is given to get to know someone. My spouse, we knew each other for 13 years before we got married. My abusive ex whom I have a child with, whom he abandoned, thank GOD I did not marry him. God actually saved me from making that mistake. If he walked in the door and wanted to be a part of my son's life now, I would welcome it with open arms.

Your assumption was wrong. Let's agree to disagree on this one. You say God will forgive him based on your beliefs and I say he will not.

To address everyone else, what I believe and expressing it was not an intention to have them scrutinized by those who see things differently, I should have known better than engage most of this banter. I am sure that there are those who would agree with me, just not in this forum. To each his own. No one here will be able to convince one another to believe in what the other believes in. The one thing that is consistent is the word and Gods word is that Divorce is a no go. You cannot separate one flesh. Moses created divorce, man creates adultery. If we teach our children to get it right in the beginning, we would have a lot less to worry about.
about an hour ago ·

Sophia Johnson

@Michael; I could go on, but I have to digress. I mentioned over and over again that Yom Kippur for some and Jesus for others is the only way to get forgiveness for sin.

Marriage the second or more times around is unforgivable. You can only remarry and your relationship not be considered adultery in Gods eyes if your ex dies. You divorce, you stay celibate and you will be alright.
about an hour ago ·

Sophia Johnson

Double dipping in sin is so wrong, especially if you do so knowingly.
about an hour ago ·

Sophia Johnson

@Michael, yes sir, I know that Jesus was a Jew, he bore that crown and the title as king of the Jews in life and death.
about an hour ago ·


Doretta L Lee

I really dont like taking things to this level on someone elses forum but I feel a strong leading to do so..being married to someone else and wealth doesnt necessarily relieve the pain of past rejection..you said I was wrong and then you turned around and validated what I said. PAIN is blinding..I know when I know what I'm talking about. I dont respond to these forums because I have nothing else to do. I am very busy...I have a life outside of FB. Another note, I am very suspect of a married woman with 6 children who has so much time to spend on the internet. When I was married and raising 3...to be a virtuous woman, I had no time for verbal power struggles with people who werent going to add or take away from my household.
Now let's get REAL technical...if you had a child by your EX even if you didnt have PAPERS that said you were married...under TORAH or the OLD TESTAMENT you were married! THEREFORE, you are currently in an adulteress relationship....hmmmmmmm! I'm not saying this to be cruel but in hopes the scales will be removed from your spiritual eyes. You and no one else on here is living a perfect life according to the law! the only true perfection is in the law of love. JESUS said this and so did Paul hmmmmm. What really confuses me is..what in the world did Jesus do in the case of the woman who those men brought before him accused of adultery and what did JESUS do and say in the case of the woman at the well who He revealed that He knew what kind of woman she was...I seriously hope and pray you study the law of love closely. This world started with LOVE and it's going to end with LOVE everything else in between is to lead us back to LOVE. No one on here is condoning wrong but many have been enlightened by the power of love..and refuse to be in bondage. Sis you are not fully healed..trust me..I was you at one time..no compassion, no grace, no mercy. Even with people around you, it's a lonely life. Love and Live.
about an hour ago

Sophia Johnson


My child and the sex partners of my past are a result of my upbringing which mimics the life you embrace. For my children, I rebuke my upbringing and am showing them the life that God intended for us to lead.

Your assumptions and judgements about me are not unexpected. I am not hurt or lonely and I embody all that you have judged me not to have, compassion (mercy is the same thing) and living in Gods grace. Your strong leading is anger, why be angry with me? I do not know you and this is my first time on fb in 6 days. In the words of Mr. T "I pity the fool". You engaged me, I did at no point ask you your opinion, I simply responded to an open forum that wanted individuals to share theirs.

Please forgive me for giving you a lesson here regarding premarital sex and the Torah, but your facts are incorrect.

Promiscuity and Pre-Marital Sex

Many people are surprised to learn that the Torah does not prohibit premarital sex. I challenge you to find any passage in the Jewish scriptures that forbits a man from having consensual sexual relations with any woman he could legally marry. It's just not there!

Nor is there any passage that requires a man to marry a woman after having consensual sexual relations with her. The passage forcing a man to marry the woman deals with rape (the man seizes her). It says nothing about consensual relations. Some say that consensual sexual relations create a common law marriage, which can only be dissolved through divorce, though the law on this point is not clear.

This is not to suggest that Judaism approves of pre-marital sex or promiscuity. Quite the contrary: traditional Judaism strongly condemns the irresponsibility of sex outside of marriage. It is considered to be improper and immoral, even though it is not technically a sin. In fact, to prevent such relations, Jewish law prohibits an unmarried, unrelated man and woman from being alone long enough to have sexual relations. But these laws come from the Talmud and the Shulchan Aruch, not from the Torah.

Be blessed in your eyes wide shut existence.
10 minutes ago ·

Sophia Johnson

BTW, my kids were in bed by 9pm, so I can indulge in whatever fills my mommy time, fb, pandora or sex with my husband. I would have preferred the sex but he was tired. I should have woke him up.
6 minutes ago ·

Sophia Johnson

The text regarding Judaism and pre-marital sex was taken from:

http://www.jewishvirtuallibrary.org/jsource/Judaism/sex.html

Got to give them their credit. Check it out, it's a great read.

Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Where is the Humanity in Humankind Hiding?


When I think of all the superficial responsibilities that we are forced to assume daily, it takes stories like this to remind me that there are so many things wrong in our world that we overlook because of the grind. Having a lot of time on my hands leaves me exposed. I begin to question the sincerity of my friends, family, everyone. I didn't think that it would show but it does.

Do you think that it is possible to save the world?

The unimaginable things that plague mankind is supposed to have an equal number of wonderful things, like protons and electrons.

Why is the positive being over showed by the negative? Why doesn't the news equal out the terrible with some good and present them in reverse order? I truly, truly detest, abhor, loath selfishness and the more I am exposed to it, the more it changes me into a cynic. it's very little at a time but still relevant and disenchanting.

Mother Calls EMTs Who Ignored Her Dying Pregnant Daughter 'Inhuman'

Tuesday, December 22, 2009

The Brooklyn District Attorney's office is looking into the actions of two emergency medical technicians accused of refusing to help a pregnant woman who collapsed in the coffee shop where they were taking a break.

A spokesman for the office said it was investigating to see if any laws were broken.

The two were suspended from their jobs Monday,and Mayor Michael Bloomberg called their behavior inexcusable.

The Fire Department of New York suspended Jason Green, a six-year veteran, and Melissa Jackson, a four-year veteran, without pay while the Dec. 9 incident is investigated, spokesman Steve Ritea said.

The mother of a pregnant woman says the emergency medical technicians accused of refusing to help her are "inhuman."

Cynthia Rennix told The Associated Press on Tuesday that she could never have imagined an EMT refusing to aid someone. She says they shouldn't have those jobs if they aren't willing to get involved.

Witnesses, first speaking to The New York Post, said the EMTs told employees at the eatery in downtown Brooklyn to call 911 and then left when they were asked to help Eutisha Revee Rennix, an employee who had collapsed.

An ambulance was called, and Rennix, 25, was taken to Long Island College Hospital, where she died a short time later. Her baby girl was too premature to survive. A message left for Rennix's mother Monday wasn't immediately returned.

Home telephone listings for Jackson and Green weren't unavailable. A call Monday evening to the EMT's union office wasn't immediately returned.

Ritea said that all FDNY members "take an oath to assist others whenever they're in need of emergency medical care. It's their sworn duty."

A union spokesman said Monday that EMTs generally consider their jobs to be a 24-hour kind of thing.

"Our people tend to spring into action whether they're on duty, off duty, whatever they're doing," said Robert Ungar, spokesman for the Uniformed EMTS and Paramedics, FDNY.

The city's EMTs have a "very strong bond with the people of New York City that they serve," he said. "They view themselves as always being on duty."

He said the union was waiting to see what the results of the Fire Department's investigation would be.

"If there was unprofessional conduct by these EMTs, the union does not condone any type of conduct which in any way can harm members of the public," he said.

On Monday, Bloomberg repeated comments he made over the weekend criticizing the EMTs, saying refusing to help goes against human decency.

"There's no excuse whatsoever," he said.

Tuesday, October 2, 2007

She's Gone and She Won't be Back, Well Somewhat.


Moving on is the process of creating your future. If you don’t find yourself moving on then your present will suggest that you are stuck in the past and unless it was the bomb, without regrets, you must be very depressed right now.

Although my future seems to have been the past repeated “same shit, different day” scenarios for the last ten years, I have to admit the different environments give me a sense optimism. Maybe things will be different this time and I won’t make the same mistakes again is the game plan. As applied to my recent bold moves, I can only say so far so good.

Throughout my life, I have been told by instructors, mentors, and elders that everyone learns from their mistakes but in my experiences, I have found that this is not true. What if the individual has no accountability and lacks hindsight? How many people do you know that when questioned about making the same mistake again, their response is just the sad “I know”. Well not me, I am that once bitten, twice shy kind of woman.

Where am I going with all this? Well I am in a much better place right now. Everything is new but not unfamiliar so adapting is a cinch. I know where I am headed and I see nothing but success in my present future. I’ve moved on, and the change in environment doesn’t intimidate me. So why am I constantly looking into my not so distant past? I am not sure if I am making sure I dotted every “I” and crossed every “T” but whatever it is, I hope that one day my past will stop haunting me and moving on will not include the reflection of my past.

Thursday, April 26, 2007

I Know That's RIght, Apology Accepted!




I know that Mr. Cosby would appreciate any apology, so I will accept it in his absence.

Why would I do such a thing you all ask? Well, as a wife and mother of five, I could relate to EVERYTHING that Mr. Cosby has bitched at the Black community about in the last two years. I know what it means to be more than a responsible parent, I am a ACCOUNTABLE parent, and in this day in age, you need both to keep your kids in line.

I have a 15 year-old son, who has kissed a girl, looked a a soft smut film, and believe it or not, he is a virgin. And I also know how many times he's been absent or late, and he currently has a C average. Now how many hood derived parents could attest to that?

I lived in a lot of Hoods in my life. I currently live in a White hood and believe me, Mr. Cosby should have had a word or two for these parents also. Sex, pregnancy, crime, drugs, underage drinking, and violence surround all children, in the streets, music, television, and video games. How our children get overexposed to these outlets is the parents fault, in my and his opinion. Teaching values and ethics is my job, not the industry. I am accountable for my child's rearing, and I take it very seriously.

More parents should engage their children's lives. Find out what is on their minds. Discuss what media interests them. Watch and listen to what interest them. Keep the lines of communication open and you will have better, not complete, control of their actions.

Mr. Cosby has always been there for the children of the hood, hell he made a show to display that they have interests, education, and honor amongst their fellow brother (and sister, wasn't Russell/Bucky a Gal? Who could tell under all dem clothes!).

Anywho, thanks to everyone that showed the Cos some love, and next time you nay-sayers want to rip him a new one, ask me first!

Thursday, March 29, 2007

Could I Be a Better Poster Child?


I suffer from diabetes and hypertension and I have to say that it began in good ole Barbecue, fried fish, as a matter of fact, fried everything Kansas City Missouri.

One pregnancy, and now a life-altering illness. It took Luther, Barry and many other Black icons away from us, and I am sure that a few of you lost a aunt, uncle or grandparent. Really, I know you may have lost more.

Diabetes and Hypertension are also known as the "Silent Killer" because you feel fine, although you are dying slowly. A huge hint of diabetes is the thirst. Hypertension, honestly there is no way of knowing, well until you are about to have a stroke or heart attack.

Get yourself checked. Shoot, go to the house of that family member that has a cuff or a glucose meter and check. You can also call the American Diabetes Association, or the Heart and Stroke Foundation to find various health check clinics.

You only have one life to live. Don't let food and a lack of exercise cut it short, unless you are a lazy, indulgent glutton and you are into that kind of thing.